This post is a double-whammy! I’m excited to show off my OWN baby’s first year cake smash! But I also want to reflect on what I’ve learned my first year of being a parent.
I have experienced a tremendous change in myself, for the better, all thanks to this little human.
1. Nature is Remarkable.
This goes without saying, but I have to point out this crazy shift in my mindset. I grew this baby, out of love, within me. I welcomed her into the world by working WITH my body. I became teammates with PAIN, the one thing we, as humans, try to avoid at most costs. Pain and I worked together to safely push her out of my body and into my arms. I was a BEAST, in the best way. I can’t believe I did it, among all the other amazing women that have given birth since the beginning of time. I’ve joined their ranks!
A year later, I’m so much more aware of nature’s accomplishments & abilities. Gardening blows.my.mind. The ocean, animals, my body, especially breastfeeding. All these little things that make up our world are so impressive on their own. Weeds that push through no matter how hard you try to kill them, crazy hybrids of marine creatures in the ocean, the fact that FLOWERS CLOSE when the sun isn’t out. I just can’t, it’s so amazing! Why did I never appreciate these things before?! We truly are guests on this earth and I have learned to view the world as a privileged place to be.
2. I’m so capable!
You know that feeling, when something kind of scary happens (like an injury) and you look for the nearest adult…just to realize you ARE the adult and you have to figure out what to do? I kind of thought I’d be that way with parenting….but I’m not. I just kind of know what to do most of the time! I’m not scared. I feel prepared, even confident to take care of this sweet thing. And the way she looks at me reinforces that I really am trustworthy and I would do anything to make sure she’s safe and happy. Oh! And decision making becomes WAY easier once you’re a parent!
3. Life is Hilarious
Life is ironic, difficult, fulfilling, and short. Making a person, and trying to turn that person into a good one, is not for the weak. Learning to laugh is the most valuable tool in your arsenal to get through without going mad. Just rocked your baby for 40 minutes, only to discover a huge dump in her diaper right when you’re about to lay her down? Baby spits up all over your outfit right before your first date night after her birth? Karma from chasing that kid with a booger in 4th grade! Hahahaha
4. There’s a lot more to life…
I sometimes don’t look in the mirror before I leave the house. I’ve accepted that this is a phase and that eventually, I’ll get some me-time back. But I’ve learned that there’s a lot more going on in the world and it’s pretty awesome. I’m teaching this kid awe-inspiring facts of life. She’s discovering clouds and shadows and good & bad for the first time and I’m a part of that. So I’m good not taking 30 minutes to get ready every day if it means more time with experiencing my girl, experiencing the world.
5. The village thing is true.
I’m so thankful for my “village.” Becoming a parent can feel really lonely at times. A lot of the freedom you once had is gone for a few years. (Maybe more, I’m still new at this!) If you have friends without kids, you can feel like you’re missing out on a lot of things. It’s so nice to have people that care about you and your little ones. If it weren’t for my village, I probably wouldn’t be able to work. I wouldn’t have anyone to vent to (so I would probably be crazy), my baby wouldn’t have nearly as many cute clothes as she does, and I’d probably still be confused about that stubborn diaper rash she had for months! If you’re part of my village and you’re reading this, THANK YOU.
6. The ultimate team-building exercise.
Parenting can turn two complete strangers into a well-oiled machine. Babies thrive on routine and predictability, which forges a partnership outside of the normal romantic relationship norm. Working together to nourish and take care of a fragile, new life is not only good for the baby, but so good for relationships. The love you felt for your partner before can feel amplified by the littlest things like watching your partner change a diaper or play with your baby!
7. Life is messy
Babies are super messy. Life is messy. Poop talk becomes a regular thing. You applaud burps from the baby because it makes her feel better. There’s blow outs. There’s little yellow stains on onesies. I take this as a metaphor for many things in life, just clean up the blow-out, let that stain sit in the sunshine and start over with a clean slate🙂 lol…I don’t know if that one works but I like it.
I could go on and on. Maybe I’ll do a Part 2 sometime🙂
Thanks for looking!