8 Reasons to Get a LIFE COACH!

8 Reasons to get a Life Coach
Holly Jaynes March 2013

Let me start off by telling you, there are definitely more than 8 reasons to get a Life Coach. In the past, I have found myself “stuck in a rut.” And although I knew absolutely nothing about life coaches, I would find myself thinking “I need a life coach!” Now, at that time, it was something I thought didn’t exist. When I found out it was a real industry, I did a happy dance! Sometimes it just seems as if I need some direction! It’s like I was waiting for a sign or a magical fairy god-mother to tell me what I shooould be doing next.
I didn’t realize that I actually already knew the answer!
That brings me to our very first reason….#1!

Reason #1: You already have the answers.
One of a Coach’s main goals is to help give their Client new awarenesses.Those A-ha moments are what we, as coaches, live for! You might tell your coach “I just don’t know why I’m procrastinating on this project so much!” At this point, we both know the truth. You do know why, you’re just not digging deep enough to admit it to yourself. You’re sitting on the surface of your emotions, letting distractions get the best of you, and not really trying to defeat the procrastinating-version of you. Your Coach is going to ask you all sorts of fun questions like, “How will you feel when you get this project done?” totally rekindling your motivation to just get it done and feel some accomplishment! Some of your answers will feel so easy, you’ll wonder why you hadn’t thought of that!

Reason #2: You take it too easy on yourself.
If you are struggling with an issue on the inside – may it be your weight, your job, etc. – you’re very likely to put it on the backburner, take the easy way out, and decide to “worry about it later.” When you do that to yourself, you’re only adding more weight and junk to your already-busy brain. It’s just sitting there, staring at you, waiting to be resolved. And until then, it’s not “worry about it later,” it’s “bother you until you do something about it.” When you seek out a Coach to act as a sounding board for all of your inner-battles, you’re OWNING those battles. You are making them REAL by expressing them out loud to another human being! THAT is the first step to overcoming them. Your Coach will assist you by taking these issues further with powerful questions, making you look deeper into what’s making you feel what you’re feeling and how you can find solutions.

Reason #3: You’re being too hard on yourself!
Wait, What!? Didn’t I just say the opposite? You’re right, I DID! Sometimes, you become so focused on something, you don’t realize how far you’ve come. And this can be very detrimental to your progress. You might tell your Coach about how you’re trying to prepare for this half-marathon this summer, and you’re feeling as if you may not have the motivation to do it. You’re feeling a lack of confidence and you’re running out of steam (no pun intended, ha!). But what you didn’t tell yourself is that – You’ve done a half marathon in the past! In your session, you mentioned “When I did that half-marathon 2 years ago, I never really felt the way I’m feeling now.” Woah! Hold Up! You need to take a minute and CELEBRATE! You’ve done this before! Your Coach will help you see how far you’ve come when you accidentally overlook it. Coaches love to celebrate wins!

Reason #4: Reach your goals!
Each session with a Life Coach has a structure. Included in that structure will be “Create an Action Plan!” You’ll tell your Coach exactly what you want, and the Coach will help you get there. He/She will ask you when you’d like to reach this goal, how you’d like to get

there, and even how to tackle bumps in the road. After you brainstorm exactly HOW to get what you want, both you and your coach will have written down everything you planned and will design a very unique action plan for that specific goal. You’ll leave the session knowing exactly what to do and how to do it!

Reason #5: Create a Team
After you and Coach design your Action Plan, you’ll figure out who can hold you Accountable, or as I like to say, your “accountabilibuddy!” Not only will you have your Coach to help keep you on track, you’ll have new tools to help yourself. In addition, you can find someone in your everyday life to partner with! Your Coach will help you decide who to ask, how to ask them, and how you can teach them to hold you accountable.

 

Reason #6: YOU are your own boss!
There is something very awesome that your Coach will not do! Your Coach will NOT tell you what to do, what you SHOULD do, or what you’re SUPPOSED to be doing. If you’re looking for advice, look elsewhere. A Coach wants you to figure it out for yourself! Like I said, you’ve already got the answers, it’s just a matter of uncovering them. You won’t be judged. You won’t be laughed at (maybe laughed with!), and you won’t have to feel nervous about your answers. There are no wrong answers in Life Coaching. YOU (the client) lead the way during every session. Wherever you want the topic to go is where it will go! It’s a journey the two of you embark on together.  

Reason #7: Peace of Mind
Most people fighting an inner battle just need to get it off their chests. Now that you’ve taken that first amazing step, you can figure out how to battle it. Talking with a Coach, designing a plan, and following through will bring you to that place you have been longing to be: at peace with the issue! You’ll be filled with the knowledge that you ARE doing something about this…and that should be a huge relief. Now you are prepared and confident to kick that issue!

Reason #8: Confidence

Preparation is really all you need to feel confident and ready! With your Coach by your side, you’ll examine all the possible obstacles to you reaching your goal. Not only will you identify them, you’ll come up with ways to overcome them! Obstacles, shmobstacles!
With all the tools and actions you discovered together, you’ll have no reason to feel defeated when the time comes to use them! Come out, guns hot, ready to show that issue who’s boss!

 

Handsome Aiden!

I got to photograph another sweet baby boy this week! Welcome to the world, Aiden Joseph!
His parents are so super cool with the best family around! I felt so welcome at his Grandma’s house. Lots of neat things to see, beautiful light coming in through a big front room window, and this perfect little boy to see!
His parents added so many personal, tasteful touches to his newborn shoot. He was a week old at the time of our shoot. We were originally scheduled for 2 weeks prior! Little guy was too cozy to come out on time!
These guys were awesome.

1. They are Disney lovers! His Mom and Dad got engaged at Disney and also announced their pregnancy with a Disney theme!
2. His Daddy is a Firefighter/EMT!
3. They live in Mount Angel which has TONS of hops, so we got to incorporate some real-life hops into their session!
4. Aiden’s Grandma Leslie brought some awesome vintage suitcases to pose him in! Family heirlooms are my favorite!
5. His Aunt Tia (also my neighbor, such a small world!) knitted him the beautiful cream blanket he is lying on. Very much so made with love for little man!

I loved learning all about this fantastic family! I’ll stop going on and on so you can admire his cute face now🙂

Little Miss Isabel

Hi friends! This is Isabel! Isn’t she gorgeous!?

I’m so lucky to have gotten to photograph her in her first week of life at only 6 days old!

I’m learning so much every day in this path I’ve chosen. Not just about photography, although I’m constantly learning in that too, but about life! About how resilient we are as women, how amazingly a family can come together, how fortunate we are to have our babies. The happiness that enveloped this couple in their first week of parenthood was so obvious and made me happy to be a parent. Elizabeth is already a natural and she has such a great partner in crime, Caleb! He’s ready to help where ever he can and is completely wrapped around his little girl’s finger already!

I also learned that an IKEA roller organizer thing is a fantastic investment for a new baby, thanks for that Elizabeth! I’ll be getting one for the next babe🙂
See what I’m talking about here! She had hers loaded up with diapers, wipes, pumping supplies and more! It can just follow her room to room, wherever she needs to be!
Thanks for looking!

 

An Open Letter to Grumpy Old Men & Breastfeeding Mamas

The coolest thing about perspective is
it can be changed.
It’s free. It’s educational. It’s useful. It can be whatever you want it to be.
What an amazing ability.
So why is it, then, that people choose to see things one way and one way only?

For Example, I was thinking about the whole breastfeeding topic today.
Now, I know what you think I’m going to say. You think I’m going to bring up how intolerant people in our country are, and they are, but I’m actually going to address both sides of this issue.

Let’s take your stereotypical grumpy-old-man that does NOT want to see someone nursing in public. He thinks it’s indecent, attention-seeking, too provocative.
He doesn’t get it.
A breastfeeding Mom. She’s so proud of the accomplishment she’s making but she’s paranoid that every single person is judging her, so she lashes out angrily at bystanders.
She may not know that someone is proud of her, someone is impressed by her, someone is doing the same with their little one regularly.

Man = Offensive
Mama = Defensive

Now, the common denominator here is what? 

Ding Ding Ding! PERSPECTIVE. 

Dear Mister Grumpy Old Man,
I love grumpy old men. I think you are all hilarious and have so much to teach us. I’d like to take this opportunity to teach you something. That Mama there grew a life within her and sustains it all by herself. Through her body. Through nature and love. Asking this Mama to not nurse her baby is comparable to asking a tree to not shed its leaves in the fall. It’s the equivalent to asking your local farmer not to water his crops. It goes against nature.
We are made to nurture our babies. Our boobs were not made for your entertainment. I’m happy you like them, I really am, but I need you to get back to the basics here. Be proud of your Mom for giving you the best possible start she could. Be proud of your wife for strengthening your children’s immune systems and for providing them with safe vitamins and nutrients that change their composition from moment to moment just for your child’s needs.
Next time you see that Mama taking care of her child’s most crucial necessity, remember this: that child is healthy and living because of her. She is IMPRESSIVE.
Changing your perspective is a choice and I’m very happy to shed some light on a new option for you.
Sincerely, Holly

Dear Mama,
Hey girl. What a beautiful little one! I know nursing can be tricky. It’s supposed to be so natural but doesn’t always come easy. Babies latch on and latch off, they pull off nursing covers, they get distracted. You do you. Whatever you have to do to feed that baby. It feels like you’re on stage trying to get that baby latched in public, but trust me. Everybody in the room is not waiting for a nip-slip. They’re going about their business and are probably afraid to look directly at you. The odds of someone saying something are not as high as you feel like they are right now. If you catch a side eye from somebody, try not to get beat red and upset. Maybe it’s a Mama who’s baby never latched correctly. Maybe it’s a man reminiscing about the days his wife nursed his little ones. Or you know, maybe it is a hater. But I want you to relax, let them be intolerant and passe, and move on. Nurse on. Enjoy your baby and don’t let opposing views ruin your moment. These moments are fleeting. You should be proud. Nursing isn’t easy but it’s worth it.
Changing your perspective is a choice and I’m very happy to shed some light on a new option for you.
With Love, Holly

This post is in honor of World Breastfeeding Week 2016.
“The World Breastfeeding Week 2016 theme is on raising awareness of the links between breastfeeding and the Sustainable Development Goals. By recognizing that breastfeeding is a key to sustainable development, we will value our wellbeing from the start of life, respect each other and care for the world we share.”
source: http://worldbreastfeedingweek.org/

Somethin’ Like Olivia

I had the pleasure of photographing sweet baby Olivia!
Got to meet her at 17 days old! I will always remember her birthday because it just happens to be one of my most favorite days, Parker’s birthday! (But a year later!)
She’s just so cute and very observant! She didn’t want to miss a thing!
Her parents and I got a lot of time to talk and I learned all about what life is like in Oklahoma, where her Mama is from and where her parents met!
I’m happy we live in the same town and look forward to bumping into them at Safeway…because let’s face it, everyone always seems to be at Safeway in this town! LOL!

Her mama did a little work behind her camera too, taking some behind the scenes shots! Here’s a little look into what goes into my set ups!


Check out this beauty’s gallery below!
Oh and PS: “Somethin Like Olivia” is a John Mayer song….one of my favorites! Listen to it here on youtube.

 

Baby Easton

Today was an important day!
I got to photograph my first newborn BOY!
I’ve been dying to use my green and blue wraps, my grey faux fur and my “boy poses!”
Easton and his big sisters were so good for me. I loved going out to their house in the country with beautiful rolling hills and a sweet black lab to greet me when I got there.
Thanks for letting me capture these sweet fleeting moments, Easton’s parents!

Check out this handsome guy’s gallery!

Parker Belle and Me

This post is a double-whammy! I’m excited to show off my OWN baby’s first year cake smash! But I also want to reflect on what I’ve learned my first year of being a parent.
I have experienced a tremendous change in myself, for the better, all thanks to this little human.
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1. Nature is Remarkable.
This goes without saying, but I have to point out this crazy shift in my mindset. I grew this baby, out of love, within me. I welcomed her into the world by working WITH my body. I became teammates with PAIN, the one thing we, as humans, try to avoid at most costs. Pain and I worked together to safely push her out of my body and into my arms. I was a BEAST, in the best way. I can’t believe I did it, among all the other amazing women that have given birth since the beginning of time. I’ve joined their ranks!
A year later, I’m so much more aware of nature’s accomplishments & abilities. Gardening blows.my.mind. The ocean, animals, my body, especially breastfeeding. All these little things that make up our world are so impressive on their own. Weeds that push through no matter how hard you try to kill them, crazy hybrids of marine creatures in the ocean, the fact that FLOWERS CLOSE when the sun isn’t out. I just can’t, it’s so amazing! Why did I never appreciate these things before?! We truly are guests on this earth and I have learned to view the world as a privileged place to be.

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2. I’m so capable!
You know that feeling, when something kind of scary happens (like an injury) and you look for the nearest adult…just to realize you ARE the adult and you have to figure out what to do? I kind of thought I’d be that way with parenting….but I’m not. I just kind of know what to do most of the time!  I’m not scared. I feel prepared, even confident to take care of this sweet thing. And the way she looks at me reinforces that I really am trustworthy and I would do anything to make sure she’s safe and happy. Oh! And decision making becomes WAY easier once you’re a parent!

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3. Life is Hilarious
Life is ironic, difficult, fulfilling, and short. Making a person, and trying to turn that person into a good one, is not for the weak.  Learning to laugh is the most valuable tool in your arsenal to get through without going mad. Just rocked your baby for 40 minutes, only to discover a huge dump in her diaper right when you’re about to lay her down? Baby spits up all over your outfit right before your first date night after her birth? Karma from chasing that kid with a booger in 4th grade! Hahahaha

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4. There’s a lot more to life…
I sometimes don’t look in the mirror before I leave the house. I’ve accepted that this is a phase and that eventually, I’ll get some me-time back. But I’ve learned that there’s a lot more going on in the world and it’s pretty awesome. I’m teaching this kid awe-inspiring facts of life. She’s discovering clouds and shadows and good & bad for the first time and I’m a part of that. So I’m good not taking 30 minutes to get ready every day if it means more time with experiencing my girl, experiencing the world.

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5. The village thing is true.
I’m so thankful for my “village.” Becoming a parent can feel really lonely at times. A lot of the freedom you once had is gone for a few years. (Maybe more, I’m still new at this!) If you have friends without kids, you can feel like you’re missing out on a lot of things. It’s so nice to have people that care about you and your little ones. If it weren’t for my village, I probably wouldn’t be able to work. I wouldn’t have anyone to vent to (so I would probably be crazy), my baby wouldn’t have nearly as many cute clothes as she does, and I’d probably still be confused about that stubborn diaper rash she had for months! If you’re part of my village and you’re reading this, THANK YOU.

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6. The ultimate team-building exercise.
Parenting can turn two complete strangers into a well-oiled machine. Babies thrive on routine and predictability, which forges a partnership outside of the normal romantic relationship norm. Working together to nourish and take care of a fragile, new life is not only good for the baby, but so good for relationships. The love you felt for your partner before can feel amplified by the littlest things like watching your partner change a diaper or play with your baby!

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7. Life is messy
Babies are super messy. Life is messy. Poop talk becomes a regular thing. You applaud burps from the baby because it makes her feel better. There’s blow outs. There’s little yellow stains on onesies. I take this as a metaphor for many things in life, just clean up the blow-out, let that stain sit in the sunshine and start over with a clean slate🙂 lol…I don’t know if that one works but I like it.

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I could go on and on. Maybe I’ll do a Part 2 sometime🙂
Thanks for looking!